Deciding to move a loved one into a care home can be one of the hardest choices families ever make. Many carers struggle with feeling guilty about putting partner in care home, and these emotions are completely normal. Understanding why guilt happens and learning ways to cope can help you feel more at peace with your decision.
Why Guilt Happens
Guilt often comes from a sense of responsibility and the fear of “abandoning” your partner. Dementia or other health conditions may make it impossible to provide round-the-clock care safely at home. Choosing professional care does not mean you love them any less — it often improves their quality of life and safety.
For more guidance on moving a loved one into care, see Alzheimer’s Society – Moving into a Care Home.
Ways to Cope With Guilt
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
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Request Your Free Estate Planning ReviewAccept that guilt is normal. Talking to trusted friends, family, or support groups can help you process your emotions. Age UK – Choosing a Care Home offers advice for carers navigating these emotional challenges.
2. Focus on the Benefits
Care homes provide:
24/7 supervision
Structured activities
Specialist dementia support
These services can enhance your partner’s wellbeing and ensure they are safe and cared for. Learn more about the support available on NHS – Care Home Advice.
3. Stay Involved
Maintaining your bond is important. Visiting regularly, participating in activities, and offering reassurance can strengthen your connection and help both you and your partner feel more comfortable.
4. Seek Professional Guidance
UK-based dementia care homes and Admiral Nurses can provide emotional support and practical guidance. You can also access counselling services or join support groups to share experiences with other carers.
